The past few weeks in working with clients I’ve noticed a recurring theme. And, in the event you’re experiencing the same thing I want to take just a moment to call it out.
You have dreams, and often envision a lifedifferent from where you are now. Yet sometimes in the process of thinking or pursuing these dreams you find the same “old” situations, people, experiences, etc. continue to happen over and over again, making you feel like you never make any progress and always end up back where you started.
Why is this happening?
Simply put . . . you continue to make the same choice(s) over and over again. The situation or circumstance may vary slightly but the decision you make causes the same “rinse and repeat” cycle that dumps you back out at the same place over and over again. Only every time you return to this familiar space you’re a little more worn, ragged, or disheartened.
How do you change this?
You make a different decision, and follow that new decision by a series of other new decisions. Sometimes these decisions are big, yet often they’re a series of small decisions that build into something bigger and put you on a new path. Usually small degrees of change are more sustainable than big changes.
When you make even a small choice to consistently do something differently, you forever alter the course you’re on. You experience the world a little different, you gain a new insight or different perspective, and create a new destination.
A 1° change in your direction today turns into a whole new destination down the road.
How do you recognize when you’re making the same old decisions that keep you stuck?
There are many ways, here are a few:
- What do you feel in your body? You might feel heavy, feel a pit in your stomach, you get a lump in your throat, or something similar when you make the choice.
- You feel stuck, hopeless, depressed, or as if you have no choice.
- The decision creates emotional turmoil within, or you become angry.
- You feel trapped, helpless, or insignificant.
- You can’t see any other way.
Any of these can signal it’s time to make a different choice.
Will it take courage or boldness to do so? Likely.
Will it be hard or uncomfortable? Possibly.
Will it change your course? Definitely.
What can you do?
- The next time you feel these signs or other symptoms, STOP. Take note of what you’re doing and why you’re doing it.
- Consider other possible choices and notice how you feel about the new options. Particularly note how you feel in your body.
- If you’re not aware of another choice, take a step back and get a new perspective. There’s another option there waiting to be discovered.
- If you realize after the fact you’ve ‘done it again’, take time to run through the scenario in your mind, repeating steps 1-3. Sometimes it is easier after-the-fact to recognize what happened and gain a new perspective.
Is it time for a new choice? New options? A new perspective? It's time for a 1° change! Often it's the smallest changes that create the biggest results.